Isn’t hindsight a beautiful thing?
Growing up is one of the most painful and exciting experiences any of us will ever have to do, and when we get there, most of us will question whether or not anyone ever truly ‘grows up’. Most days, I’m happy to confess I still feel very child-like, just with a better set of communication tools, more self-respect and a wiser head.
Here are 10 things I wish I could have told my younger self…
1. Not everything is the end of the world.
When you’re younger, especially in those teenage years, everything is dramatised and exaggerated. Be cool, keep calm and rationalise your thoughts and actions. Not everything needs an answer and an immediate response.
2. Its okay to be confused about your future.
Hell I’m still stuck on this one at 22! so although your teenage years are vital to starting your education off to a good start, you’re allowed to still be figuring out your next steps.
3. Utilize your student careers advisor.
To a 15 year old girl whos main interest is boys and socialising, taking time out of your day to visit a careers advisor, admittedly, doesn’t sound all that appealing BUT trust me on this one, it will be worth it. I used to think I’d be wasting their time because I didn’t know EXACTLY what i wanted to do, but now i look back and regret not mentioning my love of fashion, Media and reading, Although to you, these things may just be a hobby they can definitely be moulded and transferred into your future career.
4. Appreciate and respect your educators.
This doesn’t just mean your teachers, this means anyone who is willing to give you advice and take the time to teach you something. Having finished University (Yes you get there) I now appreciate anyone who takes time out their day to help me grow and develop. These people are the gems amongst a sea of people who are unfortunately just in it for themselves.
5. Know who your real friends are.
Your true friends are the ones who are there for you, who listen to you and who support you. True friends will call you on your sh*t and empower you to grow. Remember though, this works both ways.
6. Sex Sex Sex.
If making-out and sex are the only activities you get up to with the guy you have a crush on, he’s not going to make you his girlfriend and he is not serious about you. Guys who are in it for more than just physical interaction will call to ask how your day was, introduce you to their friends and family, and most of all, be proud to show you off to the world. Don’t convince yourself that you can trade sex for love, it never works that way.
7. Don’t give up.
This is one I still have to tell myself even now; But don’t give up on your talents and hobbies. If you love sports, playing music, or writing, keep doing it. If you ask most adults who gave up, they’ll tell you how much they wish they would have continued on with their piano lessons, or followed their hearts and pursued their athletic career.
“Dont let anyone dull your sparkle”
8. Say I love you.
Seriously, say it whenever you can. Tell your Mum and Dad, or whoever you care most about. It never gets old
9. You’re beautiful the way you are.
Magazines, Instagram and films all lie. Theses are not real representations and you should not compare yourself to these unattainable standards. You may not think it now, but there is so much more to you than just the way you look.
10. Be Happy
Pretty self explanatory, but by far the most important one. See the beauty in small things, spend time with your friends, and do the things you enjoy.
What would you tell your younger self given the chance?- Leave me comments.
Love, Meg x